Monthly Archives: March 2024

The Joy of Dogs

This is a love story. I became a first-time dog owner six years ago and had no idea how my life would change when our four-legged angel came into my life.  I didn’t grow up with pets unless you count hermit crabs, which I do not.  My parents had all sorts of reasons for our dog less deprivation– we traveled too much, it was too much work – but really, they never got over the loss of their dog Bonnie, who passed away right before my brother was born.

Wyatt Baxter came home with us on Feb 12, a perfect Valentine’s gift for the entire family.  He was 14 pounds of love and had I realized how quickly he’d grow, his paws would not have touched the ground for the first few months of his life. 

We hit the dog lottery with Wyatt.  He is sweet, calm, loving and the most mellow Labrador you’ll ever meet.  He doesn’t walk, he saunters.  He doesn’t bark.  He’s the dog park greeter, racing over to say hello to the other dog owners every morning.  I never thought I could love anyone as much as I love my husband and kids, but I was wrong.  They’ll be the first to tell you that he’s the favorite in the house.  If you met him, I’m sure you’d agree.

Most everyone understands the joy of dog ownership.  Without a doubt, they are angels on earth.  Wyatt has opened my world in a way that I never could have imagined, beyond the obvious unconditional love and companionship.  Every morning, after school drop off and before work, we hit the dog park.  My dog park friends are of all ages and from all walks of life.  At the dog park, in a town where political parties can divide, dogs unite.  Perhaps our members of Congress should come to Old Town to work things out – it’s hard to get annoyed with the “other side” when your dogs are playing together with abandon. 

We discuss the hard and happy at the park – the personal trials and the joys. We support one another, throw balls, feed treats, and discuss diets (for the dogs, not us).  There is something about spending every morning with people – in your messiest dog park clothes, hair unbrushed, makeup-free – that allows you to let your guard down.  We discuss it all, work through issues, and help each other out while the dogs play. Some of my best travel advice has originated at the dog park.    We’ve celebrated the birth of new babies, the death of loved ones, and mourned with those who have lost their beloved dogs. 

Many of my sentences begin, “My friend from the dog park…” because, in a time when I still mostly work remotely, the dog park is where I’m guaranteed to interact in person with someone outside of my family. 

Wyatt has taught me how to slow down and be present, reminded me to greet everyone, embrace dirty clothes as a badge of honor because that means a dog jumped on you, shown me that we all have more in common than our differences, and guaranteed that I’ll never be lonely.  

Thanks to Wyatt, I will be a dog owner for life.   

Time Warp

I’ve journaled for as long as I can remember.  I recently came across a notebook from my younger self with complaints about how my parents always favored my brother scrawled out in my 8-year-old handwriting.   The page has always been a place where I can vent, work out issues, or just be myself.

This morning I opened my notebook to write down a topic that I wanted to explore later, only to discover that the last time I had written was before we said our goodbyes to my mother-in-law and before we buried her.  It has only been 2 ½ weeks.  The last time I wrote, I had no idea what was ahead of us. 

All the gurus urge us to stay in the present moment, that we only have this breath.  In times of crisis, I understand this point completely.  Time essentially stood still while I sat by her bedside.  So much has happened in the span of 2 ½ weeks and it has also flown by as time usually does. 

The other indication that time did not stop, aside from the date in my journal, was the flowering cherry tree in our neighborhood.  When did that happen?  Just a moment ago, it was winter, my mother-in-law was alive, but now she’s gone, and the trees are flowering.

The only other period I can remember experiencing this time warp was when our children were born.  Life was going on all around us, while we were living in the moment-to-moment of bringing a new life into the world and home to live. 

Birth and death strip it all down to the heart of the matter.  Only this moment, only love matters.  The rest of it is all noise.  Things come and things go.  Trees blossom, leaves fall, and weather changes. It’s nearly impossible to live every day in the immediacy of the moment that you do while ushering a life in or out of this world.  That said, slowing down to take a breath, pausing to look out, being fully present with those you love, and enjoying time in nature may be a small start.